the power of NO

I have a problem saying no. I also have a problem being direct with people. My communication skills are not the best, and as a single black female this problem gets me into situations that I wish I could avoid.

There's this man who is new in my "circle of associations" (people I know based on my associations with other people and organizations, but who aren't necessarily my friends). We'll call him MJ. He is a nice guy, but not my type by any means. Recently, we became "friends" on Facebook. I will write a whole chapter on Facebook later. Facebook has a "chat" feature where you can live chat/instant message/whatever with other users who are "online" at the time. MJ likes to "chat" with me on facebook. I figure there's no problem being friendly, so I make small talk with him, but nothing too deep. Last night, we were chatting, and MJ tells me he would like to hang out with me sometime because he'd like to make a new friend.

I am not interested in hanging out with MJ at all...but of course my inability to say NO f*cked me up. So now, me and MJ have a looming "happy hour" to go to. And he is a really nice person, but I'm just not interested. Lately he's been hitting me up more and more, just saying hello and hows it going. However, yesterday he said "you still owe me a happy hour date" WHOAH folks, when did this turn into a date?

It's my fault right? I did this to myself. I have to just go with it, have a bad time and move on. At least it will give me something to write about! heh heh heh

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